Sagging skiin RUINING my love life : )

Ok, so it's not RUINING it at all lol. But After all my weight loss (I've lost 150 lbs...about 20-30 more to go) I don't like the way my body looks. It's really not that bad, but the one thing that really makes me feel unattractive is the fact that my boobs seem to wanna look down instead of up ;-)

Now it's not to say I don't go on dates or anything, because I do. But right before intimate moments, I punk out and make up excuses because I don't wanna have to show my body.

Any advice? I'm young (19) and have ruined a number of healthy going relationships because of this. Is it all in my head? A guy's view would be FAB!

I ain't a dude, but I've been told I have more of a man's outlook on things....

If you've got a healthy relationship going, this needs to be something you talk to the dude about.  If you ain't talked about what you're feeling before you give up the cookies - the cookie 'session' ain't gon be good no way - sex is more in your head than your kitty anyway.......

If you can have the conversation and get his assurance that it's not an issue for him - then it won't be for you.  I can understand your apprehension - before I had my plastic surgery, I felt the same way and well.... STILL do!  (I have back rolls that I don't like) and still after plastics, I now wonder and trip about the SCARS...... so - it ain't never over in YOUR head, you just gotta let that ish out and hear that a REAL man - ain't even trippin!!!

"If you've got a healthy relationship going, this needs to be something you talk to the dude about.  If you ain't talked about what you're feeling before you give up the cookies - the cookie 'session' ain't gon be good no way - sex is more in your head than your kitty anyway......."

Never in amillionyrs would I have suspected this wouldbe your response.  I's proud of you!

  proud?  of me?  Ummmm - i suppose......

I've always said it's about what's in your head - the physical is just a magnifier for what's brewing on your brain.....

  I also ain't say how quick the conversation had to be........  
"Damn I wanna hit that"
"You sho?  What you workin with - more than 8 down there right?"
'Hell yeah shawty, I can do the damage"
"You eat, beat and wrap it up, right?"
"Hell yea - gotta keep it safe"
"And you ain't looking for a model - I got some curves and rolls...."
"It's all good shawty - lemme bend ya back"

............... ummmm - of course, you COULD draw it out a bit, perhaps be a lil less graphic - but I got ADD and don't like to concentrate for long periods of time so some **** don't work for me.....

There's thee Trina I know and love!  LOL! 

girl THANK YOUUUU!
That little dialougue is so perfect. I can't wait to put your advice into practice. Trust and believe, I might have a few more questions I need advice on, so definitely need your help!

Damn - for real????  LOL!!! 

Most of the time folk say I'm too blunt or nassy....... GLAD to help!!!!!

I definitely got plenty mo tips where DAT come from.............

OH - and umm.... don't forget to add "What's your name?" to that dialogue..... I leave that step out sometimes.......... but I just blame it on age.....   sssshhhh - don't tell nobody.....

PLEASEEEEE!
I hate when people sugar coat everything. I speal very candidly and appreciate when people do so for me!

LMFAO @ adding "What's your name" to that dialogue.

No surprise here, but I agree with Mack Mama.  You need to be clear and have that talk with your man.  But honestly, this is really all about you.  I suggest you talk to a plastic surgeon and investigate your options.  Then from there, you can make a decision with your man about your surgery options. Don't be surprised if he doesn't care and only wants what will make you happy.  So do that.  Make yourself happy.

I have the same issues, even after a few plastic procedures ( with more to come) so it isn't ever totally over.  I have the same back fat rolls that MM talked about and it messes with me totally.  I also still need to have my tummy tuck and breast lift done and until then, the loose skin bothers me and will until it's gone.  I have settled myself with a certain amount of scaring.  I would rather have the scars than the skin and eventually scars fade.